03 August, 2009

To Love, Be Lovable

To Love, Be Lovable
Excerpt from Deepak Chopra's 'The Path to Love'

To begin with, we can't keep confining romance to an emotional state; we must redefine it as a surrender to the mystery of our own spirit – sat chit ananda* - for beneath the turbulence of emotion is what romance is. It is a state in which your primary relationship is not with your beloved but with your Self. Romance therefore begins when you can show your soul to another person.

The secret to being attractive, if one consults the past record of human experience, is remarkably simple. It is summarized in an Aphorism from the Latin poet Ovid, who said, “To love, be lovable.” A lovable person is someone who is natural, easy with himself or herself, radiating the simple, unaffected humanity that makes one truly attractive.

Sometimes however, the simplest solutions are the most difficult to achieve. People find themselves caught up in the anxious search for love precisely because they don't feel lovable. The very condition that would make for romance is absent. It is sad to say, but but many of us have never felt lovable, even in childhood, when we had the fewest defenses against love and therefore could approach it with the most spontaneous innocence. A child who does not easily ask for affection and attention, who does not blossom when these are supposed to , or who lives with her or his appeals unanswered, has been deprived of the very essence of childhood. Even for those of us who were loved adequately as children and therefore are in touch with our lovableness, bringing it forward is incredibly difficult in the current social climate.

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*The Meaning of SATCHITANANDA
Here we will elaborate on how Truth (SAT) delivers us from falsehood, from the veils of confusion/delusion. Truth leads us from unreality into reality -- a profound and sacred PRESENCE. Truth is realized through practicing true awareness (surrendering preferences, desires, bias, prejudice, self deceit. conceit, pride, fear, and doubt). Surrendering to truth -- to thusness leads us into acceptance of unbiased and unconditioned/unconditional universal truth/reality. To desire only THAT is a major aspect of mature spiritual practice. It provides all the focus, direction, and energy that is required for success, but in most of us this divine passion for SAT has become diffused, dissipated, distracted, and hence impeded.
This practice (cultivating SAT) thus leads to true ultimate liberation from these and other obsessive/possessive burdens/distractions which from this perspective are "seen" as poor compensations for the "real" thing (but the "normal" person is generally confused). Having freed our "self" from these skewed and distorted afflictions we increasingly abide in our natural uncontrived state -- (SAT a profound transpersonal Suchness/Thusness) in natural gratefulness and ease. This feeling of grateful celebration having surrendered the dross and burdensomeness of conflict and stress brings about a feeling of natural wellness and wholesomeness -- a state of abiding in natural bliss (ANANDA).
SAT thus is the first step, clearing the path of obstructions. A basic truth is that awareness can not come about without truth. Consciousness of consciousness also cannot exist in slumber, thus self realization, enlightenment, and gnosis will not dawn without SAT. In SATCHITANANDA, SAT and CHIT (consciousness) form integral parts of a greater and profound sacred wholeness.
SATCHITANANDA is the living spirit-filled (spiritual) result of merging unlimited and subjective absolute beingness with objective absolute consciousness. Here, in the instant of integration, there manifests a complete and spontaneous expression of non-dual integration of subjective and objective -- of beingness and consciousness. Instantaneously in the sacred moment an ever present holotropic morphology or Great Perfection arises as our natural and authentic state (sahaj).
SAT is truth. As such it is the destroyer of falsehood, delusion, deceit and illusion. It leads us from the unreal to the real, out of the veil and into clarity and consciousness of our true state. SAT restores us from a limited, constricted, and separate states of stasis, to our authentic boundless and natural state of unobstructed beingness. This leads to the merger of pure beingness and absolute subjective experience with pure consciousness and absolute objectivity.
Chit is consciousness. It is thus one of the integral ingredients toward waking up out of slumber and forgetfulness and into our true nature, our uncontrived/unconditioned true and natural self.
Ananda is absolute bliss. Here all tension, stress, obstruction, bias, distortion perturbation, conflict, and disturbances have been let go of, surrendered, removed, and purified. Here in SATCHITANANDA the nadis are completely open and the imbalances are balanced -- harmony and synergistic synchronicity allow the shakti prana (kundalini) to maintain and uphold the body/mind and breath and this permeates one's entire being and irrigates the consciousness. Shakti and Shiva are reunited in one's own countenance. One reflects and acts as a the natural transpersonal spontaneous extension, conduit, and expression of divine presence -- of divine love and wisdom reflecting the "reality" of "ALL OUR RELATIONS". Ananda (bliss), contentment (santosha), peace (shanti), or nirvana are the goals, but rather a spontaneous result and expression -- a natural aspect of this transpersonal relationship without a separate subject/object. It thus symbolizes the Great spiritual objectless relationship/integration -- the realization of the Great Integrity where the Great Beingness and Infinite Mind are experienced as a living unity in the present as Great and Sacred Presence.
Having aligned ourselves devoid of resistance we arrive into the sacred Integrity of Pure Beingness and Consciousness -- a synchronistic holotropic state of inner and outer ecologies -- balance, communion, and harmonization of all the energies co-emerge, fill our all interstices, veins, and channels -- the essential energy flows unobstructed through natural expression.